Sometimes it isn't our brain that can't come up with the right word; sometimes it's our heart. When you visit the family of a sick child in the hospital and they ask you why this has happened to them. When your daughter wants to know why her boyfriend doesn't love her anymore. When you run into a co-worker in the hall on their first day back after losing their Dad. We find ourselves looking them in the eyes, feeling a measure of their pain in our heart, and having no idea what to say.
Sometimes the search for words comes when we are praying. What can we say to God about our problems? How can we describe what we are feeling? We search our hearts for the right words to tell Him what we are thinking. . . .but all that comes out is tears. There is no way to put our feelings into words to pray and we sit there overwhelmed by our circumstances and needing our Father so very much. We feel helpless, but our intercessor is about to step in.
"The Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray , but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express." Romans 8:26Does is reassure you that even the Holy Spirit doesn't use words to let God know what is in our heart? Our pain, our fears, our loneliness--even the Spirit of God doesn't have the words for what is weighing on us! Just imagine, if you can, the Holy Spirit groaning with the weight of what He carries to the Father on our behalf. We are assured that God hears us because "He who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit because the Spirit intercedes for the saints in accordance with God's will" (vs. 27)
Did you get that?? God knows the mind of the Spirit--they are entwined in the Trinity relationship--and the Spirit intercedes for us as a part of this intimate relationship. No words are needed. The very aching of our soul is expressed to God in a way that is beyond words.
It's time to admit we don't have all the answers to the questions that start with "Why". It's time to take our cue from the Holy Spirit and quit trying to find the right words to comfort those around us who are in pain. It's time to hug them and hold them and listen to them and cry with them and know the Spirit is expressing the groans of their souls to the source of mercy and peace.